At Home with Ingram and Maddie

He was from North Carolina. She was from California. They met in Texas and began their love story while dancing in the rain at a music festival.

The first day of class at Baylor University, Maddie noticed Ingram sitting across the room and decided in that moment that he was going to be her best friend. The North Carolina boy took this pursuit of friendship as a pursuit for something more and began to desire to date Maddie. This California girl was strongly against this – she did not want a boyfriend her first year of college and definitely had not even considered Ingram as a viable option – just a best friend. After many adventures, explorations, late nights, and deep talks, Maddie realized she too was falling for Ingram and could not imagine living a day without her best friend. From the moment of their first adventure at ACL (a music festival in Austin, Texas), Maddie + Ingram have been inseparable and now strive to a life full of excitement, creativity, and love while serving Christ.

After 5 years of dating, they decided to seal the deal on March 10th, 2018. Since then, they have enjoyed building a home together (even though they have moved four times since then) and growing closer together each day of their marriage.

Describe a hurdle you had to overcome in your relationship or during your wedding planning.
Ingram and Maddie had a long distance engagement. Ingram was in law school in North Carolina and Maddie was working for a non-profit in Thailand for much of their engagement. (Ingram proposed just days before her departure.) They definitely do not recommend planning a (destination) wedding not being together or in the state it was happening!

What is your favorite thing about each other?
Maddie – Ingram has the sweetest eyes and best hair. He’s also so creative. When he plays our song (“What Would I Do Without You” by Drew Holcomb) on his guitar and we dance together – that’s my favorite thing ever.

Ingram- Maddie has an uncanny attention to detail. Because I am a big picture person, I often look over the details that are needed to make something successful. Maddie is always there to make sure the details are worked out and create a plan for success. I think we both compliment each other in that way.

What is the best thing you’ve learned from one another?
Maddie – I’ve learned patience really is a virtue. It is important to remain patient, kind, and accepting of your partner – wherever they are – and love them through each step of their journey

Ingram- Maddie has taught me to always look at the other side of a situation. It’s easy to develop your own thoughts on something without considering how it will effect other side of the equation.

What is the most important thing in your marriage?
Laughter – find things that make you laugh until your stomach hurts. Those are our sweetest moments.

If you had one piece of advice for other couples, what would it be?
Maddie – Don’t forget – you are a team. You are each other’s best friend. Pray for each other daily and lift one another up with encouragement and intimacy.

Ingram- Don’t take life to seriously. If you and your spouse are constantly stressed about the things going on in your life you won’t be able to stop and enjoy the stage of life you are in and how far your relationship has progressed.

What is the most honest thing you can say about love?
Maddie – Love can be the most challenging thing in the world. And even through the ups and the downs though, love is always worth it. Sometimes we show love in unhealthy ways – find what helps you and your partner engage in healthy love together and commit to it. Love is worth it.

photographer: Jessica Slaunwhite


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