It’s strange for a wedding publication to say something like, “don’t sweat the details,” because really… isn’t that what wedding publications are all about? It’s true, we love-with-a-capital-“L” a good detail — I never met a wax seal I didn’t like — but here’s the long and short of it: details are only as good as the people who appreciate them. What good is a stunning wedding day if you’re more concerned with the napkin rings than cherishing the momentous leap that you’re taking with your favorite human? Why spend an ounce of your efforts and precious resources organizing a roaring bachelorette weekend in Vegas when you’d rather go to a friend’s beach house and spend your days reading cheesy romance novels with your toes in the sand?
Here’s the secret: think of the things in your wedding day that are most important to you, the things that will truly give you the most joy, simply because they make your soul happy. Then… do those things. Invite five more people at the expense of your guest favors, forgo the sea of market lights so you can hire that amazing band with killer dance party vibes — invest in your truest expression of a day beautifully spent with the people you love. Because favors or not, market lights or not, your wedding day is first and foremost a day of togetherness; it was made and built on the idea that two lives are forever weaving into one single entity. And the things you will remember most about that day won’t be what you used to decorate your chair backs. You’ll remember the look on his face when he first saw you, or how your dad forgot his pants back home and had to make an emergency trip to Belk, or how you danced your face off and nearly ripped your dress, or the feeling of looking out into the crowd of faces gathered to usher you into this new chapter of life and knowing that you couldn’t feel more loved if your tried…
That’s the magic of wedding days.
So… do the details, or don’t — just make sure you do it together!
A word from photographer Alaina Rocque of Jordan & Alaina Photography:
“We planned this styled shoot with a wedding designer + florist (Deanna Burks Design) who had drawn inspiration from Monet and his work, specifically the Gardens at Giverny painting, which she drew color inspiration from! We loved the bright color palette with pops of peach and yellow, in a sea of soft lavenders and greens. To make this styled shoot feel more ‘complete,’ we had actual guests come and stand in for the mock ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception dinner!”
photographer: Jordan & Alaina Photography / venue: Wiley’s Place / stylist, planner, and floral designer: Deanna Burks Design / dress boutique: The Bride Room / cake designer: Bake A Wish / makeup artist and hair stylist: Amanda Gros / men’s formalwear: Jos. A. Bank / rentals: 12th Table / accessories and decor: Handmade Studio TN / calligraphy and paper goods: Every Little Letter / string quartet: Viva La Strings / table runner: Silk and Willow / film lab: Photovision