Bethany & Adam had a sweet engagement session in a country field while horses and birds wandered into the background. They were sweet enough to share with us some of their relationship story as well as some highlight from this wedding day – so let’s get started!
How did you two meet? What were your first impressions of one another?
We grew up in different states, Adam from Louisiana, and me from Oklahoma. Our paths crossed through a church meeting that we hosted in Oklahoma at my home church. Adam was chauffeuring some teenagers on the trip. The night we met, a large group of people were having dinner at a friend’s house, and he and I both attended. People were outside talking or playing games like bag toss while the hosts prepared the buffet style spread. I was sitting on the porch swing alone, and Adam caught my eye. I thought he was very handsome and I kind of wished he would come talk to me. Maybe two minutes passed and here he came, right up to me and introduced himself. I guess he caught the brainwave I was sending! Haha
Tell us a funny story relating to your wedding day or relationship!
Adam was never afraid to join in on anything I was doing, even if it would be embarrassing for him! He was visiting once while we were dating and I was doing the dishes with a dark green face mask all over my face. He laughed and then said, “hey, I need some of that too!” So we went and put it everywhere on his face except for his beard! It looked so hilarious and we got a good laugh from it. My parents certainly did too when they came in to see two green faces standing over the sink doing dishes!
Describe a hurdle you had to overcome in your relationship or during your wedding planning.
A big hurdle we had to face was the decision on where we would live when we got married. Who would move where. And while we were both willing to do whatever it took to be together, we still wanted to make the best possible decision. We prayed and talked about it a lot, and ultimately came to the conclusion of Adam moving to Oklahoma for a better job opportunity. We love life here in OK, and are very blessed to have had a job come available for Adam here!
Any special ways you incorporated your family or family history into your wedding day?
A lot of our family members were part of our wedding, but I’d have to say the most special thing that comes to mind would be that I carried my grandparents’ photos with me that day around my bouquet. They had both passed away suddenly just over a year before our wedding. It meant a lot to me to carry them on our special day.
What part of your wedding day was/is most important to you?
Saying our vows was the most important thing to us both. We personally believe that our wedding vows are meant to stand forever, and bind us to each other until death parts us. Saying the vows was such a solemn thing, but it also was our favorite moment.
What is the best thing you’ve learned from one another?
For both of us, we have learned that in marriage you don’t give 50/50. You give 100/100. Giving your all to your marriage and your spouse changes everything. Selfless love in a marriage is so important.
What is your favorite thing about each other?
I love Adam’s diligence in life. He takes such pride in everything he does, and he’s happy to do whatever needs to be done. He loves the feeling of a job well done.
Bethany can cheer me up better than anyone. I can be having a bad day at work and when I get home and spend time with her all the stress goes away. Quality time is definitely my love language.
What was your favorite part about planning your wedding?
I loved every little detail of it! I loved scouring Pinterest for hours on end looking for inspiration on everything! And also dress shopping, that was a lot of fun! It really was the wedding of my dreams.
If you had one piece of advice for other couples, what would it be?
If you are going to get married, give 100 percent. Don’t hold anything back from each other. Be generous with your time, attention, and love gestures. Never stop dating each other. Romanticize your life together and invest time and effort into your marriage.
What is the most honest thing you can say about love?
It’s not easy. Fairytales depict this sort of “love at first sight” idea that everyone wants, then a happily ever after. But hard times always come. Fights happen, issues arise, but don’t ever forget what really matters. The love you have for each other can get you through anything life throws at you, if you just hold on to one another and ride the storm out together. There will be a calm after. And you’ll come out stronger as a couple than you were before.
Photographer: Courtney Dexter Photography